“Wise mind is that part of each person that can know and experience truth. It is where the person knows something to be true or valid. The wise mind is almost always quiet. It has a certain peace. It is where the person knows something in a centered way.”——-Dr. Marsha Linehan, the founder of DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy)
She further adds, “Wise Mind is like having a heart – everyone has one, whether they experience it or not.” Thus, this is something we all possess naturally, even if we are not aware of it all the time or even know how to use it. If you are someone who wants to use your brain to its maximum capability, then you will have to learn to tap on your wise mind.
The core system of a wise mind is based on intuitive thinking and looking at the bigger picture. It strikes a balance between the emotional and rational parts of our minds. A developed intuition is perhaps the highest achievement of this mind function. Thus, it is an art to listen to your wise mind.
So, how do you know if you are listening to your wise mind? How to find access to it? What can you achieve with your wise mind? If you have the questions mentioned above rambling inside your head, then waste no time and continue reading further.
What is a Wise Mind in DBT?
A wise mind is a concept in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). According to this concept, you can develop this talent through cognitive-behavioral changes. When you practice certain behaviors, patterns, and exercises, you unlock your ability to know things (without using your intellect). This ability is known as intuition, and all of us have it. However, most of us fail to tap into it and, thus, never discover our magical powers.
To understand this concept, it is imperative to learn about other states of mind as well. Our brain comprises of three parts –
Our logical or reasonable mind is responsible for making decisions that involve the rationality of the brain. It is crucial to learn new skills. Reasonable mind examples – learning a new course, working a job, or merely writing something requires your logical mind.
An emotional mind, as the name suggests, is required to make decisions based on emotions. When your reasonable mind is weak or sick, then your emotions take over. Even though a reasonable mind is critical for living a healthy life, the emotional mind is also required in certain aspects of life. For instance, a mother’s love can lead to an intensity where she would fight to her last breathe for the safety of her child. However, negative emotions, such as misery and sadness, also rest in the emotional mind.
Wise mind is the one where the emotional brain and reasonable brain overlap. It creates a balance between the other two states of mind. With good DBT skills, you can create a calm state of mind. It brings the sensuousness of emotional state and rationality of a reasonable mind together to learn to act intuitively.
The wise mind uses the power of intuition to see the bigger picture and knows how to handle the state of distress, sadness, anxiety, even depression, by exactly knowing where those emotions come from. It is usually your ‘aha’ moment that defines your wise or wisdom mind. All you have to do is pay attention to your breath, calm down your mind, and find your intuition.
How to find your Wise Mind?
To invoke this ability, you will have to become mindful—live in the present moment and follow a daily ritual of certain CBT practices until you learn to use your wise mind effortlessly.
Here are some ways to get access to your it –
- Observe and accept your thoughts as they are instead of running from them.
- Describe your thoughts without interpretations or judgments.
- Use kind words for yourself and others and be empathetic.
- Focus your attention in the present moment. Do not think about the past or future.
- Do what’s right without allowing your emotions to take over.
- Meditate to increase your emotional intelligence.
- Be mindful as much as you can.
- Practice the above ideas until you learn to use your wise mind naturally.
You will know that your wise mind is in use when you learn to be grateful for everything. Yes, even bad experiences. The wise mind filters out negative thoughts and emotions and only focuses on the positive and good experiences.
Our brain is potent. You can do extraordinary things with it, only if you know how to use your wise mind well. With the practices mentioned above, you can find access to a magic that lives inside you, a world that can bring you all the happiness and abundance of the world. All you have to do is breathe, close your eyes, and tap on to your wise mind.
Namrata Singh is a dentist turned writer and clinical researcher. Eager to learn about anything and everything, she is what you would call a jack of all trades and master of none. With a zeal for reading novels, books and anything she could get her hands on ever since she was little, she embarked into a writing career purely out of luck. After indulging in a freelancing career for nearly two years, she can now write on anything - from dentistry to decor, travel to technology, medicine to management - but psychology remains her first love. Having dealt with mental health issues in the past, she hopes to raise awareness for the same and help people with her work in association with The MindFool team