Dreaming about an ex is a mere reflection of your inner being. It is your insecurities, self-doubt, and the trauma ridden parts of your psyche that needs an emotional healing.

It may also mean longing, unfulfilled wishes and desires, and unresolved conflicts.

Dreaming about an Ex - Different Types & Its Meanings
Dreaming about an Ex – Different Types & Its Meanings

What Does It Mean to Dream about Your Ex?

Dreams can become highly unpleasant and stressful if you are dreaming about an ex. It’s because the same person shows up in your dreams again and again to give an indication of what’s going on in your life right now. 

Maybe you still feel for your ex and have not been able to move out of the relationship. It could also mean the unresolved conflicts, the worry-laden part of your inner self that is full of self-doubt and apathy. 

Whatever the reason might be, it is advisable not to jump into conclusions about the various dream meanings.

Few likely reasons could be:

  • Unfinished business between the two of you
  • Dissatisfaction with current relationship
  • Mourning in grief
  • Emotional healing is on
  • Missing a happy timeline of your life
  • You still have feelings for your ex
  • A lonely feeling deep within you
  • sexual dissatisfaction with present partner
  • Recent contact with your ex

Spiritual Meaning of Dreaming about Your Ex

From a spiritual point of view, dreaming about an ex could mean that your ex-partner is still thinking about you, missing you and wants to come back in your life. 

It could mean an unfinished job between the two of you, both were unhappy with the way the relationship ended. Thus, maybe their thoughts found their way into your dreams.


Biblical Interpretation

It’s an indication to let go of past hurts, forgive those who sin against you; to seek God’s mercy if you are wrong in some ways. Your dreams about your ex represents your longing for something that was never satisfied. 

It is desirable to let go of things that can never happen and move on in life with whatever you have. God is trying to tell you that you are self-sufficient to validate your feelings; he wants you to move past emotional pain and suffering and live life in its best form.


Various Types of Dream Scenarios Involving Your Ex 

Dreams about an ex can be happy, fearful, confusing, annoying, and what not. It can mean a plethora of complex emotions often difficult to accept and acknowledge. 

Let’s analyze the few types of common dreams about an Ex and what they mean.

A recent Ex

You’re dreaming of a recent ex because you are not happy about how the relationship ended between the two of you. You were not mentally prepared for the breakup. It has left deep wounds that are difficult to heal. 

Ex rejecting you

It actually means the same feeling that you held for them in your real waking hours. You do not want to patch up with your ex because the relationship was selfish or maybe it was only working on one-sided commitment from your end.

Ex apologizing to you or wanting you back

There can be a significant meaning attached to it. If you dream of your ex who is saying sorry or apologizing for their misbehavior; it might symbolize some current problem. 

This is a kind of wakeup call where you need to find out whether you are missing the person or it is some specific time in your life or moments shared together that you still miss and wish to revive it in your present relationship

Fighting with an ex

This is a pertinent dream that represents some underlying issue in your present relationship. If you seem to fight a lot with your current partner, it may get manifested in your dream state, only the person changes. 

Moreover, fighting with an ex could also symbolize your inner fights with yourself. You are not happy with your life right now and have become your worst critic. 

Dream of getting back into a toxic bond with your ex

Whether you dream of cheating, adultery, or abuse, any toxic ties with your ex-partner indicates the underlying fear and mental trauma that the relationship gave you. 

You are emotionally overwhelmed and feel scared of another breakup and beat themselves up for staying in that relationship for too long.

Having sex with a toxic ex

It shows that you have come to peace with your toxic past. You have accepted your ex as a part of your past, forgiving them for whatever they have done. 

Forgiveness allows you to heal those broken and wounded parts of yourself that caused immense pain over these years.

A romantic dream with an ex 

This dream may not be related to your ex but some specific good quality of them that you still miss. This could be about the person’s personality or the good times spent together that still reminds you of the lost love that you people had. 

Dream of your ex killing you

It means change, end of something or a transformation.

This dream means the end of your mental strengths, the damage it caused to your self-esteem, the hurt to your ego.

An ex dating someone else

It means that you have come to terms with the fact that your ex-partner will have a life after you. This is a healthy dream as it allows you to heal, grow, and evolve. 

Dream about an abusive ex

This has deeper meanings. One interpretation is you have not been able to forget and forgive the distrust, anger, fear, and resentments that the relationship created in you. 

You’re pregnant with your ex’s child

This dream analysis is a positive one because it symbolizes learning, healing, growth, and evolution. 

You have learned to forgive your ex, learned to move on with your life without him/her. This dream is symbolic of personal growth and self-realization as well.

Dream of missing your ex or ex missing you

These dreams are symbolic of longing and lost love that you still miss in your relationships. It symbolizes your desires and unmet needs. You still long for a compassionate partner, you feel wanted. 

An ex giving advice to you

When you dream of an ex giving you advice it means you need to learn from the mistakes of the past relationship and move on with your life. It warns you not to repeat the mistakes again that you have made with your ex.

A sick ex

You have not come to terms with your breakup. You want to heal from within so that you can regain some positivity in life. This dream reflects your heartbreak and emotional trauma that you are trying to overcome.

Dream of a dying ex

It represents your guilt. This tells you to analyze your mistakes in the relationship. This dream is a kind of self introspection showing the dark aspects of your personality that needs to be altered to develop healthy future relationships.

Arguing with your ex

It means that you still hold a grudge or anger against him/her. There are unresolved conflicts that lead to bitterness. Now you are making an effort to let go and forgive them so that you get the peace of mind that you deserve.

An ex having a good time with you

This indicates that you still embrace the positive aspects of the relationship with your ex. You miss those good times, those small happiness shared together.

Dream of an ex kissing you

Most of the time, these dreams are about your first love where kissing and physical intimacy was more often experienced.

But you miss those aspects of the relationship now. These are related to more of the feelings associated with your ex and less to the ex themselves.

Summing Up From ‘ThePleasantDream’ 

Just not freak out and remind yourself that dreams about your ex-partner are not abnormal at all. In most cases, it’s not the person who you miss but the circumstances or a particular happy timeline of your life that you long for and wish to get back to even now.

The best way to deal with it is to forget and let go of your hidden wishes as much as possible. Why can’t you be only ‘you’? Take pride in ‘Live and let live’ to find inner peace and ultimate happiness that you deserve.

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