Ever wondered if that guy in your class likes you? Or there is a coworker who is suddenly paying attention to you, so much so that you can’t help but ask yourself, “Does he like me?” Or “Does he like me more than a friend?” Or maybe it’s just a guy you’ve met only in the gym.
We have all been there. And men aren’t like women. They are strange creatures, so it is not easy to figure what is going on in their head. But that doesn’t mean that they don’t leave subtle hints for you to find out the truth.
‘Does He Like Me’ Signs
Here are some signs a guy is into you. If you, too, have often asked yourself, “Does he like me?” – read on.
1. He is observant and he says nice things about you
This is probably the most common sign. If someone is constantly complimenting you, they obviously like you and you no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?”. And they even notice tiny things about you. For instance, if you do something new with your hair, and he is the first one to notice and compliment it, it is a pretty good sign that he likes you.
Research has revealed that men express interest by complimenting little things about their object of affection.
2. He wants to know more about you
And to that end, he asks you personal questions. A lot of them. Personal life, career choices, future plans, childhood memories, family members, your hopes, and fears – all those questions that nobody would ask if they were making small talk.
Asking these questions is a way for him to find out the real you and see if that real you is compatible with him.
3. He tries to impress you in subtle ways
A guy who likes you will want to show you that he is better than the competition. He will do that by showing his physical strength, his intelligence, and sometimes even his emotional quotient. Even shy guys feel compelled to bring attention to their accomplishments in front of women they like.
4. He treats you differently
Now this one can be tricky. Some guys show their affection by paying more attention to the girl they like, while others ignore them. In any case, the goal is the same – to get you to pay attention to him.
You can even test this out. If you move away from the group, he will follow you with his eyes. If you leave the room completely, he will try to follow you. On the other hand, the ignoring type of guy will make it a point to make you notice that he is talking to everyone but you.
All of these are just tactics to get your attention, and pretty much reveal his likeness for you. You no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?”. He does.
However, it is not necessary that if a guy is ignoring you, he must like you. Maybe he really is not interested. You should probe further in such cases and look at other subtle signs before you make a move.
5. He helps you with little things
If you are both in college, he will offer to help with assignments or studying. If you are at the workplace, he will offer to lighten up your load. He will open doors for you, bring you coffee, give you a ride home, etc.
All these are big signs that he is into you and wants to make sure you are comfortable.
6. He looks at you after he says something or makes a joke
Your reaction is important to him. He wants you to listen to him and laugh at his jokes. This is his way of finding out where he stands with you. So when you two are in a group, he will look at you to gauge your reactions. He might take things ahead if he can see that you like him.
7. He tries to predict things about you
If he doesn’t know you that well, he will observe you and make predictions on the basis of his observations. This shows that he has spent some good time thinking about you, and even though he doesn’t know you very well, he would like to.
8. He doesn’t get distracted when you are talking
This is something you should notice when you are in a group. Even if you are telling a lame joke or a boring story, most people will lose interest. They will start fiddling with their phone, or start small talks between themselves.
But the guy who likes you will keep his focus on you. He will even ask follow up questions. All these signs are a good indication that he is listening to you, and probably likes you as well.
This is one of the most fundamental ways in which men show their affection. If this is happening, you no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?”
9. He smiles a lot when he is with you
This is a pretty self-explanatory sign. According to Norman Li, an evolutionary psychologist, smiling and laughing at someone’s jokes is a good indicator that they are interested in you.
Research has also indicated that not smiling can be perceived as a sign of dislike, which is something he obviously doesn’t want. So if he has a big smile when you walk into a room, it is a good sign that he likes you.
10. His words and action mirror you
This is a pretty subtle sign that most of us miss, men or women.
Next time you are with a guy that you think likes you, notice these things:
a. Does he speak at the same pace and rhythm as you?
b. Does he move forward when you do, or lean backwards when you do?
c. If he uses the same slang words that you use.
d. Does he subconsciously copy your mannerisms, like waving your hands when speaking, or making certain facial expressions, etc.?
If the answer to any of these is yes, know that he likes you. The reason for this is rooted in the mirror neuron system of our body. It essentially means that we mirror other peoples’ actions when we want them to like or cooperate with us.
In this regard, Judy Dutton said this in her book, How We Do It: How the Science of Sex Can Make You a Better Lover:
“If you want to gauge whether someone’s attracted to you, check your watch—then see if they check theirs. Or scratch your arm, then see if they scratch theirs. Or cross your legs, and see if they cross theirs. This means they’re subconsciously trying to get in sync with you, which is a good sign.”
11. He gets hyper or nervous around you
Sometimes men are shy, and don’t know how exactly they should behave around women. This can result in behavior that may seem hyper, nervous, or strange. If someone is generally a confident person but starts to act weird around you, it may be a sign that they like you.
Here are some signs of this sort of nervousness:
1. He keeps touching his face, rubbing his forehead, scratching his nose, etc.
2. He compresses his lips often.
3. He keeps playing with his hair.
4. He blinks very often.
5. He keeps playing with his hands and fingers, and he doesn’t know what to do with his arms.
6. He yawns too much.
If he is showing these signs, he is into you. You no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?” now. You can notice him with other people to check if this is his normal behavior or just around you.
12. He gets jealous when you hang out with other guys
This is pretty self-explanatory. Humans are simple creatures, and when they see the object of their affections giving attention to someone else, they may not be able to control the jealousy.
If he was talking to you normally during the day, and then starts acting distant, cold, or angry after you talk to another guy – he is jealous. And he likes you.
13. He will ask for your number
This is of course only applicable if he doesn’t have your number already. It is pretty self-evident that if a guy asks for your number, he wants to talk to you. Research indicates that initiating contact is a good sign of interest.
But there is a catch here. Some guys like to collect women’s numbers like trophies. If you see that he is getting everyone’s numbers left, right, and center, then he is probably not interested in you.
You can also tell if a guy is genuine if he is a little nervous when asking for your number. Because he wants to remain in your good books, he may be afraid of offending you.
14. Watch out for his texting habits
First of all, this assumes that he already has your number. If he is texting you quite regularly and without taking any long pauses to respond, he is into you. Gian Gonzaga, Senior Director of Research & Development for eHarmony Labs, quick response time is often indicative of attraction and interest.
However, if a guy only texts you late at night, he is doing it because he is bored, not because he likes you. Learn to spot the difference between the genuine guys and players.
15. He messages you on social media
There is a lot to do on social media. And most of us don’t even pay attention to anyone’s coming and going. But if someone wants to talk to you, and he is texting you on Facebook or Instagram, there is a high chance that they like you. You no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?”. He probably does.
Of course, it could also mean that they are simply bored. So you have to analyze the situation and look at his reply. Is he quick to respond? Does he give in-depth answers or just one word and emojis? If it is the latter, he is definitely into you.
16. He tries to find out if you are single
Some men will ask you straight up if you have a boyfriend. This is an obvious giveaway that they want to be with you. But there are others who will ask you about your love life in a roundabout away.
They will casually mention that they are single, and then look at you, hoping you will be inclined to reveal your relationship status. Others will ask if you are going to a party with someone or alone. All these questions indicate an interest in you and your relationship status.
17. He tries to touch you
But not in a creepy way. More in an innocent, accidental way. It could be a slight touch at your shoulder, lightly grazing the small of your back as you leave, or even playfully nudging you. When in a group, it can also be a way to indicate that he is interested in you.
Learn to differentiate this kind of affectionate touching from sexist, offensive touching.
18. He remembers tiny details about you
If you in a group conversation ever mentioned that you like a particular flavor of ice cream, and months later, you find out that the guy still remembers it – it is a solid sign that he likes you. Or if you mention that you are having a special family dinner and the next day he asks you how it went, he is into you.
Not everybody remembers these tiny details about us. Especially, if you are surprised that somebody would remember something that small, treasure them. Because such guys are rare.
19. He really listens to and respects you
This is related to the point mentioned above. If he hangs onto your every word, values your opinions, pays attention when you are talking, and doesn’t interrupt you – he is into you. He doesn’t think of you as lesser than him, and takes note of whatever you are saying.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that every guy who listens to and respects you likes you. Some of them are just nice guys. Be mindful of not mistaking decency for attraction.
20. He teases you
Yes, this may sound very middle-school and childish. But some guys don’t know how to handle emotions and they express it by playfully teasing the person they like. It is no better than middle school, to be honest, but it’s just how some guys operate.
This is the best way they know how to get a girl’s attention. You no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?” if this is the case.
21. You start seeing him at your favorite places
If you have a favorite café or hangout place, and you suddenly start seeing him there, he is trying to get your attention. Because you have hung out here quite often, and you never saw him here before.
Another aspect of it is – when he goes out of his way to sit or stand next to you. He may not even realize it, or he may be doing it subconsciously, but the truth is that it is because he likes you.
22. He doesn’t pay attention to other girls
Because his focus is you and only you. You will notice that his interactions with other girls have slowly become limited, sometimes even with his female friends. He doesn’t spend as much time with them, or if he does, it is strictly platonic. He makes sure you notice it too because he is afraid of you thinking he might be interested in someone else.
You can notice it pretty easily if you are walking in the street. Almost all guys check out girls, especially the pretty ones. But if he only has eyes for you even when much hotter women pass you by, there is no questioning his interest in you.
23. You often catch him staring at you
This is related to the point above. Try this. in a room, suddenly turn around and look at him. There are chances that he is staring at you. If you catch a guy staring at you from across the room, there is no denying that he is interested in you.
24. He tries his best to comfort you if you are in distress
Whether it is a personal matter, a family emergency, or a professional issue – he will do everything in his power to relive your discomfort. You can even see it on his face. Just the sight of you stressed or anxious bothers him so much that he will do whatever it takes to fix the problem.
25. He tries to find ways to hang out with you
Someone who likes you will take initiative to find ways to hang out with you. He won’t just leave things to chance. He will organize coffee meetups, movie trips, or even ask you to go get some ice cream with him. All these are ploys to get you to spend more time with him.
If he is constantly texting you or showing up to you with plans to hang out with you, if he makes extra effort to spend time with you, you no longer need to wonder if he likes you. It is very clear that he does.
26. He won’t get fidgety when he is with you
What this essentially means is that he will not fiddle with his phone, check his social media, or look here and there when he is with you. Researchers have found that men are very calm postured when they are with a woman they like.
The same thing goes for eye contact as well. Several studies have suggested that prolonged eye contact is indicative of attraction and interest.
27. Their body language changes
When words fail, body language betrays. Notice how he behaves around you. Do his feet point towards you when you both are in a group? Does he lean in when he talks to you? Are his arms open instead of crosses on his chest.
If the answer to any or all of these is yes, it is clear that he likes you, or at least would like to know you more. Research has found that guys start to do certain things with their body when they are near a woman they like, and most of it is subconscious.
Here are some of those body language signs:
1. They adopt an open and inviting posture. They will expose the abdomen portion, as it indicates openness and friendliness.
2. They lean in when they are talking to you. This highlights their interest in you.
3. They move closer to the woman they are talking to.
4. They remove any obstructions in the way or any barriers between the two of you. For example, they won’t cross their arms, as it can come off as being defensive.
5. His feet will point towards you. This is true even if he is talking to someone else at the moment.
If he is showing these signs, you no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?”. He does.
28. He wants you to meet his friends
If someone likes you, they will want to introduce you to other people they like. This means you get the answer to your question “does he like me more than a friend?”. When he is introducing you to his friends, it may be his way of showing you off or checking if you will fit in in the future.
It is also possible that he may have already told his friends that he likes you. in such cases, you will see them subtly trying to leave you two together, or giggling when he pays attention to you. All these are definite signs that he likes you.
29. He tells you about his future plans
He tells you what he wants to do in the future, and waits for your reaction. This is his way of subtly checking if you would want to fit into his plans. He could also be trying to show you that he is goal-oriented and ambitious so that you take him seriously.
30. He wants to know what future plans you have
Again, the same principle is applicable. He is doing this to gauge how you feel about him, to see if your future has space for him. For instance, if you are planning to move cities, things may not work out between you two. He is being cautious and smart, so that neither of you gets hurt.
31. He laughs at your jokes
Even if they are not that funny, he cannot help but laugh or giggle at them. It is because this is his way of making you feel good, acknowledged, and important. You can even do it as an experiment. Tell a lame joke that you know isn’t funny. While the rest of your friends will roll their eyes at you, the guy who likes you will laugh, or at least smile. This is another signal that you can decode and get the answer for “does he like me more than a friend?”
32. His face will betray him
A person’s face can tell you a lot about him. Research has revealed that when someone looks at something they like; their pupils will be dilated and their eyes will be wide and bright. His eyebrows will move and his facial gestures will be animated.
Also, when men are attracted to a woman, they salivate more, due to high testosterone levels. If he is swallowing more often, or drinking a lot of water – he may be literally drooling over you!
33. He opens up with you
This is a major sign of attraction. If you two are in the same friend circle, or are already at the talking stage, he will open up to you about things that he doesn’t talk about with anyone else. He will tell you about the moments he felt scared or embarrassed, what scares him about the future, who intimidates him, or scares him, etc.
This shows that he wants you to know the real him, and he trusts you with his secrets. You no longer need to ask yourself, “Does he like me?” in this case. He does.
34. He offers you food
This is a big thing for men. They usually don’t offer their food to someone, unless they really like them. It may seem silly to you, but it is what it is. If a guy goes out of his way to offer you food that he bought for himself, he is indicating that he is ready to share more food with you in the future, you just have to let him. It’s pretty cute, huh?
35. He accidentally likes your social media post from ages ago
Did you just get a notification that he liked a photo or post from 2014? That means he is stalking you, went so far back, and then an accidental like happened. Not only is he thinking about you, but he is probably wasting hours just looking at your posts, reading your silly jokes and whatnot. This is a definite sign he is into you.
Does He Like Me Quiz
Here are 10 questions that you can ask yourself to know if he likes you:
1. Does he text you and call you often?
2. Has he ever gone out of his way to help you?
3. If you stopped initiating conversation, can you be sure that he will get back to you, sooner or later?
4. Does he make you feel special, even when you two are in a group?
5. Is he often making plans to hang out with you? Is he going out of his way to see you?
6. Does he help you or offer to help you?
7. Does his body language indicate he is into you (check out the body language signs above?
8. Do you feel like you can talk to him about anything?
9. Does he make an effort to meet your friends and family and get to know them?
10. Does he notice when you leave the room?
Of course, this list can go on and on, and you can keep speculating and overthinking till the cows come home. But if you answered yes to most of these questions, there is a good chance that he does indeed like you.
Now stop thinking so much and go get him! Speaking of which…
Does He Like Me Back? – What To Do If I Know He Likes Me?
This one is a bit tough. Some guys are shy and they won’t say anything for decades, if you don’t make the first move. Others might feel threatened if you are the one who takes the initiative. If it is the latter, you might want to approach cautiously!
But here is the thing – life is short and you cannot wait forever. So if you are certain or even not so certain that a guy likes you, and you like him back – talk to him! You can also check out these tips on what to do if a guy likes you, and ask him these questions. Although they are meant for guys, the underlying principles remain the same.
Also, don’t do anything that will make him second guess everything. After all, you don’t want to lose someone who loves you so much.
At the end of the day, the signs are just signs. They may mean something, or they may not. Maybe you are reading the situation correctly, maybe you are not. Who knows.
The best way to find out if your guy friend likes you is to simply ask him. Especially if you are available, have more than friendly feelings for him, and want to start dating him. You will be saving a lot of time and effort from both of you.
Namrata is a Doctor i.e. dentist turned writer and a clinical researcher. Eager to learn about anything and everything, she is what you would call a jack of all trades and master of none. With a zeal for reading novels, books, and anything she could get her hands on ever since she was little, she embarked into a writing career purely out of luck. After indulging in a freelancing career for nearly two years, she can now write on anything - from dentistry to decor, travel to technology, medicine to management - but the psychology remains her first love. Having dealt with mental health issues in the past, she hopes to raise awareness for the same and help people with her work in association with The MindFool team